I realize that based upon first name alone, Ehme and Ehe are similar. However, it is now apparent to me that Ancestry.com does not necessarily use gender to sift through your matches. Interesting.
I realize that getting more results is better and that this apparent genderless matching is intended to locate references that may have been incorrectly gender coded.
Ancestry.com let me "add" the Illinois marriage reference to Ehe's "file." There were no flags regarding gender and no new "spouse" was added. The adding process simply let me add the marriage record to Ehe's file. I immediately deleted the addition.
I'm just not certain yet how I feel about this apparently genderless matching. And I realize that Ostfriesen first names are confusing to those who are unfamiliar with them. But the names are not the problem here.
Did you know that the leaves don't care about gender at Ancestry.com?
[note--all screen shots are current as of 20 December 2012]